TMZ has cultured ... the jaws of newly-minted sex tape/"Real Housewives of New Jersey" idol Danielle Staub are potted on the subject of her XXX partner -- we're sure much to his relief.
Sources close to Staub tell TMZ the 46-ish-year-old won't name the partner -- her boyfriend at the time. We're told he signed off on the tape but wants to keep his identity under wraps.
We can appreciate why he doesn't want praise for his handiwork ... but we were able to find a brief frame of the dude's indication in a reflect.
